Obedience today is like a dirty word. It provokes thoughts of control. But we want to control our own lives, our own choices. We don't want a boss, a spouse, a parent, a priest or pope telling us what to do.
We ought to look at the source of authority. Who gives "this or that" man authority over me? "His" authority ought to come from some "one" that we trust, that we have reason to trust, who has an actual right to our obedience, and the right to delegate his authority to another.